And when love in life has ended…..

May it go on in heaven above. – Fred Webber

Today marks the 80th anniversary of the marriage of Fred Myron Webber and Carol Richards on August 14, 1932. Fred was my Grandmother Abbie’s brother. I put out a request for a wedding picture and received this from their daughter. Thank you!

Carol Richards and Fred M. Webber 14 Aug 1932

Fred Webber was highlighted in the Spring 2000 edition of “The Strange-Webber Connection” family newsletter. Family members have given me permission to use stories and memories shared within its pages, so I’ll share a couple that reflect on their marriage.

This excerpt explains the title above:

“Carol Webber shared with us the following poem. She explained that, while they were both students at the University of Iowa, she and Fred  went on a picnic with friends. They fetched a bucket of water for the group. Later, Fred presented Carol with the following poem, above which he had mounted a picture of the two of them carrying the pail of water for the picnic.”

(Update 5/5/2019 – I recently received the original hand-written poem from one of Fred’s and Carol’s children and so I happily replace the typed poem from the newsletter with Fred’s hand-written verse.)

 

Just four months prior to their wedding, Fred was “publicly ordained to the work of The Gospel Ministry on the fourteenth day of April, 1932, by a Council of Baptist churches, composed of 25 messengers from 14 churches, convened at the call of the Immanuel Baptist Church at Rochester, NY.”

Fred’s first three pastorates were in Baptist Churches. In 1941, he was received into the Presbytery of Buffalo-Niagra and for the remainder of his career in ministry, he served in Presbyterian churches and other assignments within the Presbyterian Church.

Fred and Carol had four children and were married for 56 years – until Fred’s death August 30, 1988.

Also included in the newsletter are memories that Carol Richardson Webber shared about her marriage to Fred.

“After 56 years of marriage, there are many ways in which I remember Fred. I’ll try to share a few with you.
I remember Fred as a loving husband and father. He could always find time to help with or check the children’s homework, play a game of catch or something. Always ready to drive them and their friends to ball games, etc.
I remember him sitting in his easy chair surrounded by books and papers and doing crossword puzzles in ink.
I remember his devotion to work. He was a student and spent many hours preparing for a service.
I remember him as being able to fix any toy or household item – but always having to go buy a tool before he could do it.
I remember his love of camping and taking pictures. As the children would say, he was “stopping to take a picture on every corner” as we were traveling.
I remember his cluttered desk and how he knew where everything was. I couldn’t dust his desk.
I remember his love of music and how he made that a very special part of the church service.
I remember his ability to come up with a joke or a story that he hadn’t thought of in years. He had a terrific memory.
I close as I started – remembering him as a loving and devoted husband and father for 56 years.”

Carol and Fred Webber 1968

After reading the above, It seems fitting that the only picture of Fred and Carol that I found among my grandmother’s photos was this one of Fred with his camera.

The words of the poem above reflect the life and work that both Fred, as a pastor, and Carol, as the wife of a pastor, envisioned for themselves (or at least Fred envisioned) throughout their life together. Carol has since passed away.

 

And when love in life has ended,
May it go on in heaven above.

 

 

 

 

Treasure Chest Thursday – Abbie’s Photo Wallet

I was looking for some pictures of my Uncle Mike and I found a couple in this little photo wallet that belonged to my Grandma Abbie (Webber Smith Brender). I bet she kept it in her purse at one time or another.

I decided to scan all the contents as they will likely be separated some day and I want a record of how they once “lived” together.

The first item is this cartoon that I assume is an advertisement for a company named ABBEY. Maybe one of her relatives or a friend cut it out and gave it to her. Was Abbie the person to call when there was a problem? Had she come to the rescue of the person who gave it to her?

Next I found a couple of photos of Uncle Mike (Abbie’s son). I feel like there must be a story behind this one. Look at that big smile!

Next is a picture of Uncle Mike and Aunt Beth with my cousin when he was one month old. They make such a cute family!

The next few pictures are school pictures of the cousin above and his sister. Then there is one of Abbie’s sister’s son.

The “pages” are all empty after that until the very last one which holds this:

This prayer, written in the 1550s and included in English prayer books (primers) was set to music by John Rutter. It looks like Grandma cut this out of a Christian newsletter or church bulletin and folded it to fit in her photo wallet. Here is a recording of the melody:

If anyone in the family can shed light on the picture of Mike or the ABBEY cartoon, I hope you’ll leave a comment!

Treasure Chest Thursday – Newly Acquired Treasures

I returned from my trip to Iowa with a few new-to-me treasures.

Abbie's Box

First is this jewelry or trinket box that belonged to my grandmother Abbie Webber Smith Brender. I have no memory of this particular box, but it looks as though it was well loved/used. It is about 5x7x1.5 inches and made of a lightweight wood. It is covered by a thin veneer or paper with a hand-painted design (you can feel the texture of the paint). The bottom of the box says “MADE IN JAPAN.” Grandma wrote her name and address inside, so maybe she took it with her somewhere and wanted to be sure it would be returned to her if lost. If anyone in the family recognizes this box, I hope you will leave a comment to tell me more about it. Or if anyone can help me date it, that would be nice to know as well.

Secondly, Dad(Jerry) gave me this Bible that he said also belonged to Grandma Abbie.

One of Abbie's Bibles

It is a Golden Book Edition of the King James Bible. I am familiar with Golden Books for children, but was unaware that they also published bibles. Distributed throughout the book are four-page spreads  – usually a summary of a story, a 2-page picture, and an informational list (the story of the first miracle of Jesus, a depiction of the story and a list of the miracles of Jesus, for example). Some of the pictures are artist illustrations, others are photographs.

Unfortunately, this is not a Bible that contains family records and I don’t know if this was given to her or if she purchased it for herself. I know she used it because she left a folded paper towel between the pages here, a bookmark there, a scrap of paper to mark her place in the J’s in “The Bible in Alphabet” section and this little folded and typed paper tucked between the pages of Zechariah and Malachi…

 

If you plan to enter a Bible trivia contest, you might want to study the first half of the above.